Wednesday, May 9, 2018

Research Paper: Undocumented Immigrants


One of the most heated and polarizing debates in modern politics is the argument over immigration. Economic, social, and security concerns as well as the increase in both documented and undocumented immigrants in the US have led some people to fear immigrants and call for stricter immigration law. Others call for looser immigration laws and a path for citizenship for undocumented immigrants due to their economic contributions, humanitarian morals, and support for a diverse and global society. This controversy falls on all sides of the political spectrum, which immigration groups attacking former President Barack Obama for deporting over two and a half million people during his time in office and current President Donald Trump falling under fire for his racialized generalizations about undocumented hispanic immigrants and Muslim immigrants (Marshall). Those opposed to pro-immigration policies like granting amnesty and a path to citizenship rely on three arguments to support their beliefs; that immigrants steal American jobs and drain our economy and welfare system, that immigrants pose a security threat to the safety of citizens, and that immigrants pose a threat to American culture and do not assimilate. These arguments are founded largely in fear and evidence suggests that immigrants are an economic benefit for the US, pose less threat to security than natural born citizens, and both assimilate to traditional American values and ways of life and bring with them multiculturalism that enriches our communities. For these reasons, in addition to the harmful and inhumane effects that deportation and criminalization of immigration has on undocumented people and their children, we must offer asylum and a path to citizenship.

The US economy and by extension US citizen benefit greatly from the presence of immigrants. While the eleven million undocumented immigrants in America make up a little more than 3 percent of the population, they occupy a much larger portion of the workforce, around 5 percent (Krogstad). This reflects a higher labor force participation rate than natural born citizens and highlights just how much the US depends on the labor of immigrants. In Texas if all the undocumented immigrants were deported or stopped working the state’s gross domestic product would drop by a full 2.1% or around 33 trillion dollars (Goodman) (US Department of Commerce). While some may use this dramatic impact of the labor force to suggest that immigrants are stealing jobs that would otherwise go to American citizens, the vast majority of undocumented immigrants fill roles in unskilled labor fields that most naturalized citizens don’t want such as agriculture, which is nearly exclusively dependent on immigrant labor, and service industries. When undocumented immigrants take these jobs they meet a need in our society and strengthen our economy, which reflects back to benefits for documented workers. During George W. Bush’s presidency 5 Nobel prize winning economists and close to 500 other leading economists in the country wrote to him saying that “vast majority of americans will ‘benefit from the contributions that immigrants make to our economy’” (Goodman). Studies by economists such as these have found in recent years that contrary to popular belief that immigrants drive down wages, the wages of documented workers have a positive correlation with the percent of undocumented immigrants in the country (Carden).

Another economic argument used by opponents of immigration reform is that immigrants take advantage of American benefits like welfare. This is blatantly false in many ways. As described by CNN, “undocumented immigrants do not qualify for welfare, food stamps, Medicaid, and most other public benefits… [and] even legal immigrants cannot receive these benefits until they have been in the United States for more than 5 years”. Although they do not qualify for welfare benefits; undocumented immigrants pay over ten billion in state and local taxes. In addition, the IRS claims the between fifty and seventy-five percent of undocumented people in the US file federal income tax, therefore paying into our government and funding many programs they do not benefit from (Santana). Social Security is another program which undocumented immigrants are not eligible and one which is growing increasingly important and threatened as the baby boomer and gen x generations age and the birthrate of US citizens drops. Speaker of the House Paul Ryan recently suggested that to deal with the eighty-one percent deficit between the retiring population and the working population that couples need to have more children (Emba). But an alternative solution would be to draw in more working age immigrants and offer them a path to citizenship, as undocumented immigrants have already contributed more than three hundred billion to the Social Security Trust Fund. That equates to roughly ten percent of the funds retired US citizens depend on (Goodman). Given this information one could turn the argument around and make the claim that citizens of the US are the ones abusing the welfare system by taking the money of others who can not benefit from it.

However, there is more to this issue than just economics. In the last two decades there has been an increasing focus on security issues following the terror attack on September 11, 2001 and a few very public cases of undocumented immigrants committing violent crimes. President Trump has taken a stand on this issue, stating that “illegal immigrants” bring with them “tremendous amounts of crime” and referring to Mexican immigrants “bringing drugs. Bringing crime” and being “rapists” and “bad hombres” (Rizzo). The reality is that immigrants, both documented and undocumented, commit crimes at a much lower rate than natural born citizens. One study done by the Cato Institute found that if natural born citizens committed crimes at the same rate as undocumented immigrants “"about 893,000 fewer natives would be incarcerated" (Bernal). A similar study found that among youths, 8% fewer undocumented teens had committed a crime within the last year than natural born teens (Chalabi). The vast majority of undocumented immigrants are average people that pose no threat to citizens, but just want to live out their lives in peace, without fear of deportation from ICE agents. Former Homeland Security officer and professor John Cohen directly critiques the idea of immigrants posing a threat and points to the rise of domestic terrorists and mass shooters as far more concerning. He calls for focusing on working with immigrant communities to deal with the few and far between criminals in their community, which will address what little threat there may be without criminalizing the innocent (Cohen). This would also increasing the likelihood of undocumented immigrants reporting crimes they are the victims of without fear of the police.

The third reason that many are opposed to more lax immigration laws is a fear that immigrants pose a threat to American culture. This is seen in debates about bilingual education and in viral videos of white Americans harassing others for speaking in their native language. There is this idea that to be American one must speak English, be Christian, and uphold traditional American values like strong individualism. This is tied to a fear that immigrants don’t or can’t assimilate. The Manhattan Institute has released data that suggests these fears are unfounded, as “immigrants of the past quarter-century have assimilated more rapidly than their counterparts of a century ago”. The report states that while overall assimilation rates have remained constant, that number is a bit misleading because newly arrived immigrants drag it down. The new rapid assimilation rate is what allows that number to remain constant despite the influx of newcomers. The report also found that naturalization rate among the children of immigrants has been increasing and that even among those who aren’t naturalized, there are few cultural differences between the children of natural born citizens and the children of immigrants (Vigdor). According to Pew Research, the median time undocumented adults have been in this country is over thirteen years, which suggests that most undocumented immigrants have built lives here, become part of their communities, and are raising their families here (Krogstad).

While evidence shows that undocumented immigrants benefit our economy, provide no security threat, and assimilate into our communities and culture, the US government continues to lock families with children in glorified prisons and deport people back to countries they may barely know. Recently, a man named Amer Adi was deported from the Ohio community he had lived in for thirty-nine years, where he had married a US citizen and raised 4 girls who were also US citizens. He owned several business in town he lived in and was described as a “pillar of the community”, the very definition of an assimilated immigrant that benefits the US economy (Karadsheh). Deportation tears apart families like this every day and the terror immigrant families face is only increasing. Obama was declared “Deporter in Chief” for deporting more people than any president for him and Trump seems to be following in his footsteps as he has repealed DACA protections for undocumented people and the country has seen an increase in immigrant arrests in his year in office.

Deportation causes intense harm and must be stopped unless a person poses a threat to the nation. The one of the demographics most harmed by deportations is actually the citizen children of undocumented parents. There are 5.3 million children of undocumented immigrants in this country, over eighty percent of which are naturalized citizens. These kids face ““psychological trauma, material hardship, residential instability, family dissolution, increased use of public benefits and, among boys, aggression” after their parents are taken from them. In addition to that, the children of deportees are found to have less access to education, healthcare, and social services (Deportation). Ripping people from the communities they live and work in and leaving children without parents or resources is not simply an economic or security or social issue, it is a human rights violation. For this powerful reason, in addition to all of the benefits that immigrants provide for the United States, it is time to treat undocumented people as people with dignity and rights that should be protected. It is time to create a path to citizenship and rewrite our immigration laws so that they are bases on facts and humanity, rather than fear.

Friday, May 4, 2018

The Plague of Gun Violence

On February 26, 2012 a vigilante stalked a young black boy 
Whose only crime was the hoodie he wore walking home
And shot him where he stood 
Because cellphone, skittles, metal pipe, toy gun, it doesn’t really matter what they are holding 
Black men and boys and women and girls end up dead in our streets 
Whether its at the hands of a drug lord or the officer who should’ve protected them 
When Stephon Clark bled and screamed and died for talking on a cellphone 
I doubt he was thinking about who pulled the trigger 
But was thinking about the 8 bullets that took him from his kids 

On Valentines Day this year bullets ripped through backpacks 
As 17 young bodies hit the ground 
And their friends called home in case it was the last time
they could tell their parents they loved them. 
Now edge lords, politicians, and news anchors 
Mock the traumatized teenage survivors of gun violence 

Everyday women like me, 
The 1 in 4 women who have or are or will experience abuse are five times more likely to be killed 
If their partners have a gun 
Abusers words turn to bullets sent out by trigger happy fingers 
And everyday 46 people take their own life with a gun 
Like the 12 year old boy on my sisters track team 
Who should’ve made it to high school 
The American dream is now a nightmare because nearly half of Americans 
Know someone lost to gun violence 
We rank 14th in education 
But first in gun homicides among developed nations 

The Bible says that faith without action is dead 
So it is that thoughts and prayers are dead as well 
They are dead like the 7 children killed everyday from playing with a gun 
Like the 13 veterans who turn their weapon of war against themselves everyday 
Like the 50 women a month shot by their husbands and boyfriends 
Our thoughts and prayers are dead
Until we the church take action 
And so I ask you, you who stands on the edge of the cliffs of change 
The seas below glimmering with promise 
And the lands from whence you came are barren and burned 
And so i ask you 
Will you jump?
Will you act?

My Perspective on The Church

This year I've thought a lot about walking away from the Church. No, not God. But my home church and the Christian community as a whole. While I have gone through days of doubting God or being angry at Them, I always fall back on the truth and grace I know through Christ.
However, my faith in the Church and other Christians is not as strong. The past few years I had my eyes beginning to open to the hypocrisy of many Christians. I began to recognize that they lie, abuse, steal, and basically, are flawed humans. I think that awakening was a good thing, not because I am glad that Christians do bad things, but because they Church should be filled with flawed people saved by the grace of God.
This year I was awakened to something different. This year I saw Christians quote Scripture to defend actions and people that went against everything Jesus ever stood for. I saw Christians not only take part in oppressive systems, but take the lead. I should have been more prepared for this, after all I studied history, I know that the Church was often a force for evil more than it was for the gospel. But I don't think I really felt it until I watched people that I had previously thought emulated Jesus hide behind a screen to viciously attack others. Or until I saw Christians defend sexual predators. Or until the Church stood silent while refugees were turned away to die. Or when life-long Christians at my Christian college spit at, cussed at, threatened, and bullied people who they viewed as less worthy of God's love. Until I stayed up until 3 am being told that God does not love unbelievers and sinners. Until I watched as the church I called home grew more and more hostile towards anyone they disagreed with. Until I heard Christians advocate for torture of gay people. Until I saw Christians be overcome not simply with fear, but with hate, towards women in hijab. Until I heard people say how pro-life they were in one breathe and then defend the shooting of unarmed teens the next.
I serve a God who loved the people They created in Their image so much that They sent Their only Son to die for those sinners. I serve a Savior who reached out to the marginalized. I serve a Lord whose prophets left a legacy of fighting oppression and injustice.
But I am a member of a Christian Church that supports all of the things their Savior preached against. Instead of all-inclusive and redeeming love the Church isolates itself, ostracizes others, and claims that anyone who has (in their eyes) sinned differently than them is irredeemable.
My faith in the Church is shaken. I know one too many women whose pastor said their rape was their fault. I know one too many gay kids who have been kicked out or abused. I know one too many Hispanic people who have been verbally attacked, threatened, or assumed to be a criminal simply because of their heritage. The list goes on.
The only reason I did not walk away from the Church was because I met the minority. I met Christians who lived the love of Christ. I found rare churches who fought passionately for justice and equality. Many of the people I knew who had been damaged by the Church, found refuge in the arms of God. So I will stay. I will stay because I love and am loved by a God bigger than hate. I will stay because fellowship is important to my growth in my journey with God. I will stay to support those who the Church has turned against. I will stay to try and  change the Church.
I will stay. But don't for a second think that my staying means I agree with, or will tolerate any of this.

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Tomorrow is Valentine's Day and everyone wants to talk about relationships, which is great. But while we celebrate happy, healthy relationships, it's also important to talk about relationships that may seem perfect from the outside but are actually toxic. This is for everyone to read, but especially young people that are just beginning to date and searching for love.
Let's Talk About Dating Violence
What is dating violence?
In short, it is any controlling, aggressive, or abusive behavior within relationships.
Dating violence could look like a boy who constantly needs to know where his girlfriend is and gets mad when she's not with him. It could look like a girl who slaps her boyfriend when she's mad. (Sidenote; dating violence can and does happen in homosexual relationships as well, I am just using heterosexual examples because I am speaking from a heterosexual viewpoint, but all of these apply to all relationships).
If your boyfriend or girlfriend calls you names, invalidates your feelings, pressures or threatens you into sexual situations, controls who you hang out with or what you wear, hits or pushes you, or attempts to manipulate you by threatening to hurt themselves if you leave, that probably means he or she is abusive.
If you find yourself in that situation the best thing to do would be leave. But abuse is complicated, and many people feel they can't break up with some who is abusive, at least not immediately. If that is your situation, then find a support system. Whether that means parents, or a counselor, or calling an abuse hotline, or all of the above, you need supportive loving people around you. Your significant other could try to prevent you from having that encouragement by telling you lies about your friends, or trying to convince you that their love is all you need. That is another type of abuse that you should try to watch out for.
The most important advice I have for you is know the warning signs, and don't be afraid to get help. Call the police if there is any physical or sexual violence, and seek help from trusted adults and professionals for other forms of abuse.
You all deserve to be treated with love, respect, and compassion. I hope you never need them, but here are some resources:
https://victimsofcrime.org/help-for-crime-victims/... This link includes signs of abuse, how to help a friend in an abusive situation, how to help yourself, legal rights of victims etc
http://www.thehotline.org/?gclid=Cj0KEQiAifvEBRCVx... This includes an online hotline as well as a number to call and helpful information
http://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/dating-viol... Some general statistics and information
https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepar... More information including who is at a higher risk for being in an unhealthy relationship

Walking The Walk

This weekend I was able to take a stand for a cause I believe in. It was my first protest and needless to say I was nervous. The organizers had briefed us on how to behave including that it would remain peaceful, that we were to respect any police officers present, and gave us suggestions for chants that got our point across without calling for violence or using obscenities. It was professionally set up and while my friends and I were excited for a week beforehand, we also were concerned that individuals not associated with our group might show up and cause trouble. We didn't want anything to damage the reputation of the organizers, invalidate the protest, or risk ourselves getting arrested if officers thought we were a part of a negative group.
But I learned I had no reason to worry. Around a thousand people showed up at the protest and we were a beautiful, peaceful, diverse bunch. There was a Catholic priest, representatives from a Muslim mosque, local government leaders, college students, and families of every color, religion, and ethnicity. Some signs were funny, some were inspiring, and some were satirical. The speakers were wonderful (although standing near the back I wished the microphone was a little louder). Everyone was full of energy. People were sharing personal stories and some were crying. But it always remained peaceful.
My friends and I with our signs.
Law enforcement was present and we thanked each officer we passed while marching and those that watched over us at the capital building for protecting us. The leaders of the protests handed out information with contact information for senators and lists of charities we can donate to.
The entire experience was very motivating and inspiring. It was created to be more than just a one time event and I think it accomplished that goal. Whether change is made or not remains to be seen, but until then I am going to continue going to protests, continue contacting my representatives, continue volunteering, and most importantly continue to be an ally for oppressed people.

7 Ways To Influence Change

Fight for what you believe in.

The world is weird right now. To me personally, it feels a bit like it is falling apart. I am able to have hope through my faith in Jesus Christ, but I also believe that it is just believing things will get better is not enough. Jesus was an active force for change and while I am FAR from the perfect Savior that Jesus was, I believe we should all do our part to create a better world as well.Sometimes that seems hard to do though. After all, I'm just a college student. I don't make laws, I have very little money to donate, I don't preach to congregations or speak at political rallies. It would seem that there isn't much I can to do change what I don't like and fight for what I believe in.
But here are a list of ways that anyone can influence change:

1. Vote

Not just every four years for the President. Vote in primaries. Vote for school board officials. Vote for majors, and governors and state legislators. Part of the privilege and responsibility of living in a democracy is that we are able to elect our representatives.

2. Give-time and money

If you believe in something, show it. Give what you have. If you have money but not time then donate. If you have time but not money then volunteer. Or do both. If you want to fight for education then volunteer at after school programs, buy things from fundraisers, and ask teachers if they need anything.

3. Contact representatives

Call them. Write emails and letters. Here is where you can find your senator's contact information. Here is where you can find your state representative's contact information.

4. Sign petitions

The white house has a page called "https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/" with petitions created and signed by fellow citizens. If a petition reaches 100,00 thousand signatures, a response is required from the White House.

5. Research and discuss issues

First make sure you are using good sources. This image is a helpful guide to letting you know how biased a source might be. Once you have informed yourself about important issues then talk to others about them. Whether you do so through social media, blogs, one-on-one discussions or even organizing small community meetings is up to you. But nothing can change is we ignore problems.

6. Protest

Boycotts, sit-ins, marches, and other protests are a huge part of American history and can be a great way for voices to be heard.

7. Pray

I believe in the power of prayer and I totally respect that others don't, so this advice may not be for everyone. But to those who do, pray for wisdom for our leaders.

If this interests you, this is a list of other nonviolent actions you can take. I don't advocate for all of these, so take them with a grain of salt, but they are a place to start.

To My Friends Protesting

To all my friends that are attending or have attending the protests this week: thank you for standing up for our beliefs. I wanted to march in Washington with you but wasn't able to. I truly hope from the bottom of my heart that the next four years are a good four years for our country. For the middle class and those in poverty, I hope our government challenges corruption, fights for women's rights and the right's of minorities, for veteran's and for our education system. There's so many areas in which I hope American becomes great and greatness throughout our history has often stemmed from protests. So keep protesting for change.
But when we protest we must be sure to do it peacefully. The Women's March is a great example of that, but yesterday protests at the Inauguration turned violent. Smashing windows and getting aggressive doesn't help our cause. I know you are angry. But take lessons from Martin Luther King Jr. and the Civil Rights Movement. Consciously remain nonviolent regardless of what is going on around you.
I know most of the demonstrations have remained peaceful and that brings me joy, but the aggressive few get a lot of news coverage and only damage the ideas we are trying to fight for.
Stand up for your beliefs and stand up for peace.

Reflections Of The Past

The legacy of my great-grandmother

I've really struggled with what to write this week. My great grandmother, or Nana-great passed away this weekend at the age of 96. I wanted to write something for her, but had to wrestle with the fact that due to her dementia and aging, I didn't truly know the women that she was. After attending her funeral however, I have realized that I see a lot of Margaret Gilmour in the rest of my family. So while I don't have many memories of my Nana-great, this week I want to write about her legacy.
I have grown up surrounded by powerful women. My mother, aunts, and grandmother are all incredibly thoughtful, independent, courageous, and loving. After hearing my Nana-great described as a "force of nature" at her funeral, I am beginning to realize I see her legacy everyday.
When asked why she got two masters, one in reading, on in special education, Nana-great once said "I just love helping people." I see her love for teaching and working with children with special needs continue on in the teaching careers of my mom and Nona. I see her love for helping others in the way my mom and aunts volunteer their time and have passed on that commitment to their children.
I see the fierce strong-will I have heard described so many times in all of the women in my family. In our passion for our causes, in our arguments, in our determination to succeed. I see the leadership that she used in DAR, teachings and church in my Nona's and Mom's ability to command a room.
I've heard that she never went anywhere without "her face on", including of course, her red lipstick. She taught my Nona how to dress like a debutante and how to make a good impression, and Nona in turn passed on the importance of looking the part when you need to, to her children and later her grandchildren. I see her in my aunts' love of makeup and jewelry and in my sister's fashion sense.
Nana-great was an independent spirit. She raised three children while my great-grandpa served in the military, was an extremely educated woman, had a successful career, and even traveled abroad without her husband. She taught my Nona the importance of a woman being able to take care of herself. I see her legacy in the independent, passionate women that surround me.
Throughout her adult life Nana-great had two great loves. Her family and the St. Lawrence River. I see those loves reflected around me; in my family's loyalty to each other, in my cousins' joy when they go on boat rides, in my Nona's stories of summers on the island and in over a hundred years of family history stored in photo album, ledgers, and journals.
More than I ever have before, I see her legacy when I look in the mirror. Learning more about the woman that my Nana-great was, I see her in myself. I see her in my love of education and books, in my stubbornness that is both a strength and a weakness, in my love for the river, for my family, and for volunteering. I see her leadership and strength developing in myself as I look for guidance to my mother. Her life was 96 years full, and her legacy will live even longer. I hope that my children become the strong, capable, and graceful people that my great-grandmother was.

New Year, Better Me

Ok so I have a confession to make. I have never been able to keep a New Year's Resolution. Most of us go into the new year with grad idea about how we are going to change our lives. Maybe it's quitting a bad habit, or eating healthier. Maybe you want to spend more time with friends or change your performance at school or work. But if you are like me, you fall off of whatever new pattern you are trying to develop by the end of January, February at the best.
This year however, I am not making a resolution as concrete as those. This year, I am promising myself to be the best me I can be. A lot changes in a year, and I think trying to stick to one specific goal is pretty difficult when you don't know what the next 365 days will bring. But making a conscious effort everyday to be my best is a lot more broad. This means I will be exercising when I can, not to lose weight, but to gain energy and feel good. It means I am going to journal and write emotional poetry and highlight dozens of Bible verses. It means I am going to listen to my friends, go on adventures, volunteer my time and work hard. Every day being my best may look different. And I am sure that some days I will still be moody, or lazy, or just not shine my brightest. But I am going to make 2017 a good year, regardless of what happens.

Happiness

What is happiness?



Happiness is

The pungent smell of the barn overwhelming my senses on a Saturday morning

Hot, gooey, sweet cinnamon rolls on Christmas morning

Waves breaking across the river in the darkest part of the night



Happiness is

23 voices raised in a cappella praise in a rickety bus

Having a child wrap their arms around your neck

4 am conversations with the one person who understands you at your deepest level



Happiness is

Breathing in the sweet smell of horse breath

The bitterness of Costa Rican coffee

The warm touch of someone’s lips on your forehead



Happiness is

Abdominal shaking, rolling on the floor, out of breath laughter

Heart pounding and legs shaking after a run

Slobbery dog kisses and paws climbing up you

It is shooting stars, fireflies, fireworks, and the hot sun

It is melty s'mores, midnight swims, the adrenaline rush of flipping out of a tube

It is long slow kiss, his thumb rubbing the back of your hand, hair being brushed behind your ears

It is snowflakes dusting your eyelashes, hot chocolate, classes being canceled



Happiness is

The vibrant red of autumn leaves, the world being lit on fire

The first buds of spring

Looking back at the changes in your life like the change of the seasons



Happiness is

Drowning out the troubles of the world with music blasting in your ears

Taking off your bra at the end of a long day

Dissolving into a pile of pillows



Happiness is

Loud, rambunctious family gatherings

Watching those you care about succeed

Sitting in comfortable silence with someone just to be together

It is being told you can’t and then doing it anyways

It is fighting for what is right and seeing results

It is respecting others and earning the respect of others

It is overcoming, persevering, rising up



Happiness is

The satisfaction gained through highlighting and color coding all of your notes

Walking out of a test knowing that you did well and that it’s over

Realizing that the homework isn’t due tomorrow



Happiness is

Coming home to your mother’s smile, your sisters’ laughs, your father’s jokes

Smooth, soft cat fur and the motor of his purr

Sitting by the fireplace breathing in the smell of wood



Happiness is

Long text messages that make you cry

Handwritten cursive letters

Knowing that someone took the time to think of you

It is a thousand ripples after you skipped the perfect rock

It is the musty, almond-like smell of old books

It is racing head first down a hill, feet off the pedals, flying

It is a city full of lights down below and clouds next to you as you travel



Happiness is

Looking up in at the paint on your ceiling talking to God

The fluff and soft peeps of baby chicks

The weathered hands of an old man as he teaches you to fish

Happiness is

Cool droplets and bubbling suds all over when you really should just be washing the car

Seeing the familiar face of a distant friend

Baggy, oversized sweatshirts



Happiness is

The times we wished time would stop

The images we capture in our mind

To draw from and lean on when all seems lost

To The Men Lurking On The Street

For one of my classes, I am writing a paper about rape culture and sexual assault in America. As a part of that paper, I wrote this poem based on stories of my friends, personal experience, and the general experiences of women in this society. TRIGGER WARNING: while this poem is primarily a letter to cat-calling men, it does discuss fear and sexual harassment that could be very upsetting for some people. Please do not read if it would be damaging to your mental health. It also includes some foul language which I normally do not use, but deemed necessary to get my message across, so if that offends you please be prepared.

To The Men Lurking On The Street

“Hey honey why don’t you smile?”
“Damn the things I’d do to that body”
“Girl you look fine”
“Baby why don’t you come over here?”

Ever think that I’m not smiling because I am afraid?
Do you even realize I am a person?
This pair of breasts,
This butt,
These legs,
They are attached to a human being.
I have a brain
And a heart
And a personality.

Oh, but it’s just a compliment, right?
But I don’t remember telling you that you had the right
To comment on my body.
I don’t care what you want to do to me
Because I don’t want to do any of those things with you.

Don’t call me an ugly bitch when I walk away.
“You’d look prettier if you’d smile”
“Daaaammmmmnnnnn girl why you so stuck up?”
Well I have news for you,
I am more than a pretty object that you want to give you some attention.

Have you ever had someone grab your leg and try to touch you?
Have you ever had something think they were entitled to see your body,
To grope your chest because you were nice to them?
Have you been followed on the street?
Have you been afraid to walk alone?
This is what women experience.

Your “innocent” cat-calling can leave us trembling.
We cross the street when we see a group of men.
We speed up when you are behind us.
We carry our keys like weapons
Because 1 in 4 of us will become victims.

I am lucky enough not to be
1 in 4.
But 14 people I love were not that lucky.
You need to understand that
Your words are not compliments
They are threats.

Keep your mouth shut next time you see me.
I am not some "pussy" you can grab.
I do not exist for your pleasure;
I deserve respect
And from now on I will demand it.

How I Am Learning To Respond, Not React To The Election

"You should be angry. You must not be bitter. Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. It doesn’t do anything to the object of its displeasure. So use that anger. You write it. You paint it. You dance it. You march it. You vote it. You do everything about it. You talk it. Never stop talking it." -Maya Angelou
This was the first general election I have ever participated in. I stayed up till 1 a.m. in the multicultural lounge at my school holding the hands of my friends. We all went in with high hopes of electing a president we felt would protect minorities, stand up for justice, and represent the whole of the USA. As we saw state after state turn red, I watched as my friends of color went pale.
We cried.
One of my Puerto Rican friends called her mom and said that she was terrified she is going to start getting asked to show paperwork which she doesn't have since she was a natural born American citizen. Someone told her to get deported. My African American friends were afraid to go outside after seeing footage of people threatening the lives of black Americans and calling them the n-word. Women like me are afraid that if a man who brags about sexual assault can get elected, what does it say about rape culture in America? My friends who want to be teachers are questioning how they can teach their classes to not bully students who are different, when society is saying it is perfectly fine to bully those with disabilities and others in minority groups.
I am scared for my friends because it seems as though this culture is dehumanizing them and refusing to believe that their lives and voices matter.
In the first two days after the election, hate crimes occurred at a terrifying rate.

Yesterday I was mourning the ideals I thought my country had. But today I am back to fighting for them.

Originally published November 14, 2017

So I understand if you are afraid, feel betrayed or hurt or ashamed of your country. I understand. I am here to cry with, to listen to you, and to pray for you. But soon the time for crying will be over. He won. And his presidency may not be as bad as we fear. We have other voices in government. In two years we vote again for members of Congress, in the meantime we can write letters, hold marches, advocate. Many Republicans do not agree with the racist, homophobic, Islamophobic, and misogynistic rhetoric that has followed Trump and some of his supporters, so they will not allow some of his awful policies to pass. He is not a dictator, he has limitations. Politically, we need to do as Maya Angelou said, we can be angry, but we should not let it become bitterness. Anger is an emotion and you should always be allowed to feel what you feel. But we are called to love and be unified. Let's work together to use anger for positive change. Let's listen. Let's pray. Let's talk and march and create art and be heard. Let's vote. Let's call and sign petitions and volunteer. I have faith that somehow God will use this for good. So far I have seen minority groups banding together in love and support. I have seen white allies like me being forced to speak out. I have seen these topics finally brought up in the church.These next four years we must stay strong. We need not let bitterness grow within us.
Respect the office of the presidency. You don't have to respect the individual who holds it. But please respect the office. Please use the political process, use the media, use art, use love, use your voices to make the change you want to see. Remember to listen to others as you want to be listened to. Remember to respond in love.
My friends, I am afraid, but I know that I have a God who is bigger than my fear and who loves all of us. Yesterday I was mourning the ideals I thought my country had. But today I am back to fighting for them. I will pray for the leaders of our nation and I will pray for wisdom and love for all people. I will support and lift up the voices of my friends who are not in the position of privilege I have as a white, able-bodied, heterosexual, Christian. I will respect and obey those above me as long as no injustice is committed. I love you all. I pray for you all, regardless of who you voted for.